Dad baby and breastfeeding
In the past women learnt to nurse by observing their mothers and sisters breastfeeding. Although breastfeeding is natural, it’s not always intuitive. For some women learning how to do it can be difficult, even painful before they get the hang of it. That’s where you come in. Simple things, like offering your partner a massage (breastfeeding women’s neck and shoulders can get a bit tense), provide a drink or food or offer to cuddle the baby while your partner takes a shower, can make a big difference.
Research and surveys back this by showing that if partners are supportive of breastfeeding, mothers are much more likely to continue.
Although many fathers know about the benefits of breastfeeding, common concerns include:
Research and surveys back this by showing that if partners are supportive of breastfeeding, mothers are much more likely to continue.
Although many fathers know about the benefits of breastfeeding, common concerns include:
- worrying about being left out. Breastfeeding fosters bonding between a mother and her baby, so a father might feel jealous or isolated. However breastfeeding is only one aspect of caring for a baby, so fathers can bond in lots of ways, such as soothing, winding, bathing, changing nappies, playing, talking and reading to the baby, taking them for a walk, carrying them in a sling and much more... If a father wants to get involved with the feeding, a mother can express some breast milk so he can feed the baby himself. This is best done when breastfeeding is established or going well. When solids start, a dad can be in charge of the baby’s first meals
- being embarrassed if the partner feeds the baby in public. This is normal before the birth, but as dads get used to seeing their partner breastfeed, they will realise that there is very little breast showing and many places provide facilities for mothers to feed in private if they prefer. Irish law protects the rights of breastfeeding mothers who can do so legally in public places
- worrying that breastfeeding might affect their sex life. This is normal but dads will soon find that it’s tiredness that affects it more. If a dad is concerned that any breast stimulation might cause milk to flow, the mother can feed the baby before making love or keep a towel handy
- worrying about potential breastfeeding problems. Reading about breastfeeding might help, so dads are aware of what it entails. They can also contact breastfeeding support organisations to discuss any concerns.
What partners can do to help – breastfeeding advice for dads
If your partner decides to breastfeed, you can support her by being positive and encouraging. You can do so by:- boosting your partner’s confidence - reassurance and praise will help her to keep going
- listening and talking honestly about your feelings
- being involved with the baby so that the caring is shared
- helping with household chores
- encouraging your partner to eat and drink regularly, so that she is able to cope - try feeding mum while she feeds baby!
- getting support or specialist help in case of breastfeeding problems
- accepting her decision if she wants to stop breastfeeding, not putting pressure on her regarding milk supply and the baby not getting enough milk.
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